What our residents families say...
Over time we have been privileged to know and care for a great many residents. Below is a small sample of what some of them and their families have to say about us.

Respite care for Dementia Patients at Abbeyfield, Tamar House

 

When my Mum was diagnosed with Dementia the doctors advised that she shouldn’t live alone anymore as it appeared to them that she was getting confused with her medication, either not taking it or taking too much. She had lost a lot of weight and they thought that she may have been missing meals or not bothering to eat.  My Dad had been admitted to a Nursing Home the month before.

 

As a working mum of 3 in an enjoyable, but demanding job, I knew I had to find a balance to be able to make this extra caring responsibility work. With a husband who works away from home for many days at a time and older children at university in the Midlands and up North, it became very important for me that I could take time out to be able to spend time together as a family or visit my children while they were away.

 

I needed to find somewhere where I knew my mum would feel safe and happy. My Mum is very shy and gets quite nervous meeting new people. This has become harder for her with dementia.

 

When I visited Abbeyfield, Tamar House it felt and smelt like a real home. We were warmly greeted and offered a cup of tea as soon as we walked in. Their respite room is on the ground floor so there wasn’t any need for me to worry about when Mum went for her night time wanders that she may fall down any stairs as she would be confused about where she was in the night!

The respite room is a good size, not too big to be overwhelming for Mum and felt cosy with space for personal belongings.

 

When I took Mum there for the first time she was very nervous. We settled her into her room, hung up her clothes and then she was taken into the sitting room with the other guests. The handover with Mums’ medication was easy and they asked what her favourite foods were and whether she preferred tea or coffee etc. All this put me at ease and I knew that Mum would free safe.

 

When picking her up after our trip, Mum was sat in the lounge listening to music and singing with the other guests. She looked so happy and more engaged than I have seen her for months. The handover back was smooth. They ran through their observations, how Mum got up confused in the night but was well looked after and settled back to sleep. During the hot summer my Mum had asked to go outside in the garden to sit. This meant that a member of staff had to go with her. On her enjoyment of the lovely gardens, Tamar House will now be putting up a secure fence so the guests can go into the garden at their leisure.

 

The next time Mum stayed so I could visit my son’s at their universities to bring them back for Christmas, my Mum remembered where she was and she was quite excited about going there. We were welcomed at the front door by our names and she was whisked off for breakfast. A few days later when I picked her up, she looked rested and happy. Before we left she went to ‘say goodbye to my friends’! My Mum had enjoyed the activities although she couldn’t quite remember what she had done.

 

I will continue to be able to visit my sons and spend time as a family whilst knowing that my Mum is happy and safe with people who care and understand when she gets confused or wanders at night.

 

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Patricia Addis of Derriford writes....


After a period of illness and hospitalisation, my mother was no longer able to look after herself.
However, she needed companionship and being able to interact with others, as she had always been a ’social animal’.
My husband and I started to research and visit residential care homes in the north Plymouth area and eventually came across Abbeyfield Tamar.

After a brief visit where we were shown around and met some of the staff, we both instantly felt that this was the place for her to be.
I cannot speak highly enough of the standard of care and compassion that was given to her.

During her time there, she made many friends (including staff) and talked about them all fondly.
She even had favourite nicknames for some of the staff and would very often say “you’re my favourite’.
The response, of course, was predictable - “I bet you say that to all the girls/boys” and they would just laugh.
They were all her friends.

The management of the home was second to none and over a period of time, all the staff became part of our family - as I’m sure we did theirs.
We attended and supported various events at the home and mother could not have been more happy.
She knew that she was in caring and loving hands.

Sadly in May of this year, after an operation and short period in hospital, she returned to her home at Abbeyfield, where she passed away at the age of 97 years - surrounded by her familly and caring staff that had seen her through her short period of illness.

To anyone contemplating whether to entrust one of their family to a residential care home, then I can honestly say that they would be hard pressed to find anywhere better than Abbeyfield Tamar.

A BIG thank you to all at Abbeyfield.

Patricia Addis.
Derriford,
Plymouth.
To All the Staff at Abbeyfield Tamar House

How do we start to express our thanks to you, as thank you doesn't seem enough for all you have done for mum over the last few days.

She had the most wonderful 100th birthday any lady could possibly wish for, and a massive part of it was thanks to you. We think she will remember this for the rest of her life, you have made her a very happy lady.

We know how much effort went into making her birthday the success it was, as these things do not happen without it. We also know that people came in on their day off to be there, and everyone made a tremendous contribution.

All her friends who attended the party said what a wonderful atmosphere the home has, and they felt it the moment they walked in the door. As the afternoon progressed they were even more impressed with the care and attention that was given to her and the other residents, way beyond the call of duty.

The balloons, banners and flower decorations were wonderful, the lunch spread was fantastic and the cake was amazing, which all contributed to a wonderful day. It was a lovely idea to ask Brian the entertainer to contribute. It was touching to see the photos of Nell  in her youth and the songs that he sang went down well with everyone.

It was lovely that the residents were included as they have become her friends and it was a real family atmosphere which was perfect.

We know mums 100th birthday was a very special occasion, but the reason she was able to enjoy it so much is the way she has been treated since she joined the permanent residence of Tamar House in July 2016. We know she wouldn't have enjoyed her birthday so much if she had been living elsewhere.

Our grateful thanks go out to you all, for the every day care you show not only to mum, but to all the residents. Love seems to be a very important part of this, which to us is the way it should be.

Thank you all again, although those 2 words are still not enough to express our gratitude.

You have made an old lady very, very happy, and her Daughter and Grand-daughter very relieved that we found you (How lucky we are!)

Bless you all

Love Denise and Beccy

Mrs. Mary Gage of Gunnislake writes....


Dear Gill

On behalf of myself, my brother and my husband we would like to pass on our thanks to you personally and all the staff at Tamar House for the way you have cared for my mother these past five years.

The standard of care that has been provided along with the excellent facilities has been exceptional. This cannot have been more clearly demonstrated than during the last days of her life and your utter determination that she would not be moved to a hospital environment.

We simple cannot thank every member of the Tamar House team enough.

What we would ask is that you share a glass or two in memory of Audrey, may she now rest in peace.

With our sincere thanks once again.

Yours faithfully

Mrs. M. Gage

Mrs. Christine Bramall writes....

To All the Staff at Tamar House

It is with a certain sadness that Florence's stay at your care home has come to an end. We wish to express our admiration and great thanks to all the staff who over a long period have cared for mum, for their commitment and dedication.

A special thanks to those who sat and watched over mum during her final hours. We would like to make a small donation in appreciation of all that you have done.

With Kind Regards

Christine & Frank Bramall

To Gill and all the lovely staff

Thank you so much for all the care and kindness you showed to our dad Bob McAdam. The last few moments of his life were happy

From all his family xx
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